We’ve all been there.
You’re on a first date. You’ve had a perfectly a-ok evening. You’re just getting to know one another… And then *bamb* you’re hit by a comment that you weren’t quite ready for.
Tinder is home to an array of, shall we say, interesting one-lines. You know the kind we’re talking about.
Michelle Thomas, a 30-year-old blogger, found this all out for herself, in a brutal encounter with a recent Tinder date. The date in question hit her with some seriously uncalled-for comments regarding her body. And she handled it in the best way – by writing an honest open letter to him on her blog.
The kick-ass post begins with Michelle publishing the essay that he confronted her with.
He didn’t waste much time in getting to the point: “I’m not going to bull***t you… I think you’re the prettiest looking girl I’ve ever met. But my mind gets turned on my someone slimmer.”
At this point, we feared for what might come next…
“So whilst I am hugely turned on by your mind, your face, your personality (and God…I really, really am), I can’t say the same about your figure.”
“We could be amazing friends, we could flirt and joke and adore each other and…. f*** me… I would marry you like a shot if you were a slip of a girl…”
We can hear you shouting at your screens. We’re doing the same.
Tinder man, who is named Simon and has a 13-year-old daughter, rambled on for a painfully long time, referring to Michelle as ‘baby’ and ‘hun’ throughout. Oh dear.
She then wrote: “It’s taken me a few days to sit down and respond” before penning the most epic comeback, like, EVER.
She began by stating: “You don’t have to fancy me. We all have a good friend who we look at ruefully and think ‘you’re lovely, but you just don’t tickle my pickle’.
“What isn’t fine is the fact that, after a few hours in my company, you took the time to write this utterly uncalled-for message. It’s nothing short of sadistic. Your tone is saccharine and condescending, but the forensic detail in which you express your disgust at my body is truly grotesque.”
Michelle then admitted: “I’m ashamed to say, for a few moments, it worked. You stirred a dormant fear that every woman who was ever a teenage girl has…”
Calling out the perception of trusty Instagram filters, she pointed out: “You may think are all my profile pictures are “FGASs” (That’s Fat Girl Angle Shots – pictures from angles that slim and flatter the girl. Because men only ever use candid, brutally-lit, unfiltered pics).”
The red head then brought attention to her biggest worry: “What truly concerns me, the real reason I’m responding so publicly, is the fact that you have a 13 year old daughter. A talented illustrator, who collects Manga comics and wants to visit Japan as soon as possible.
“I want you to encourage your daughter to love, enjoy, and care for her body. It belongs to her and only her. Praise her intellect, and her creativity. Push her to push herself and to be fearless. Give her the tools to develop a bomb-proof sense of self-esteem so that if (I’ll be kind. I’ll say “if”.) the time comes that a small, unhappy man attempts to corrode it, she can respond as I do now.”
Then she finished with a BANG:
You can read the full post here.
By Laura Jane Turner
Pictures: Instagram: @msmthomas