Sex And The City was not supposed to end with a happily ever after for Carrie and Big. The show’s creator, Darren Star, has spoken out about his disappointment with the way the show ended as it gave in to become a “conventional romantic comedy”.
Speaking to Amazon Kindle Single, Darren explained that he was not fully behind Carrie ending up with her on-off boyfriend, but as he was not writing those final episodes, there wasn’t much he could do:
“If you’re empowering other people to write and produce your show, at a certain point, you’ve got to let them follow their vision,” he explained, “But I think the show ultimately betrayed what it was about, which was that women don’t ultimately find happiness from marriage. Not that they can’t. But the show initially was going off script from the romantic comedies that had come before it. That’s what had made women so attached. At the end it became a conventional romantic comedy…But unless you’re there to write every episode, you’re not going to get the ending you want.”
But Sarah Jessica Parker has her own opinion. Speaking to Yahoo! Style, she said: “As I recall, the way Carrie and Big married was something she wanted. Rather than Carrie feeling that life was slipping away and she best settle quickly. I don’t think of it as someone diminishing herself by letting a man marry her – it always felt that she had arrived at that on her own.”
“The beauty is we can all have lots and lots of opinions about lots of choices Carrie made, that we object to, or that we stand by,” she said. “If that’s Darren’s feeling, I think it’s interesting.”
Indeed, while not all fans of the show came out with such disappoinment as the show’s creator did, there was definitely a divide as to whether Sex And The City ended the way it was supposed to. Some fans found it hard to accept that Carrie went back to the emotionally unavailable man who had caused her years and years of heartache. (And this is all before he jilts her).
And although SJP asserts that ending up with Big wasn’t a sign of weakness, the actress has also said that she found it hard “to not judge” her character.
While it is obviously a dream to get the chance to play such an iconic character, the actress spoke to WSJ Magazine about the difficulties in becoming so closely aligned with Carrie Bradshaw:
“People probably didn’t realise that Carrie Bradshaw was radically different from who I was, who I continue to be. I think that sometimes because we look alike and live in the same city and haunt the same neighbourhoods, that it was sort of like I was playing in the sandbox, when in truth it took real work every day to be her, to understand her, to not judge her.”