So you’ve settled into your new office, congratulations, you made it. You’ve learnt where the toilets are, what floor get the lift to and where the warmest place to sit for lunch is. All you need to do now is make friends – easy said than done, right?
Starting your new job will be taking up a lot of your time so it’s important not to rush into trying to make friends, it can come off across a bit intense and frighten off potential besties. Here are six small changes you can make to ease the friend making process in your new job.
1. Simple greetings
At the beginning, every audible word will feel like a hurdle so it’s super important to at least say “good morning” and “goodbye” to everyone as you enter and leave the building. It will make you far more confident in your surroundings and show your new coworkers that you want to make an effort to speak to them.
2. Get everyone’s numbers
Try to approach this with subtlety and pragmatism, otherwise you might come across as creepy. By having everyone’s contacts you can feel more comfortable reaching out to your colleagues if you have any questions and will ease the transition from work friends to genuine pals.
3. Manners don’t cost a penny
Manners can go a really long way when making a first impression. Remember that you can only make one impression on a lot of people so by holding the door or offering to help them out, you might win someone over to your side without even trying.
4. Attend after-work activities
Your first week is probably going to be your most tiring, without a doubt. All your nervous energy will dissipate leaving very little but enough to get home and flop. However, the best way to get to know your coworkers (who you will see every day for the foreseeable future) is in a more relaxed and sociable environment like a pub.
5. Contribute to office-wide conversations
Anyone discussing your favourite TV show or something you saw on the news across the office? Why not chip in with a joke or an observation? There’s no hierarchy of who can speak at what times. You might find that contributing to one conversation will draw up a greater confidence which you can channel into meetings and other aspects of your job.
6. Be patient with yourself
These things take time, don’t rush yourself. You have got this far through your life with a plethora of close friends who, at one time, were complete strangers to you. Trust in your abilities and yourself as a person and eventually people will see why you’re a great friend to have around.