While we’d all love to think that we’d be truly happy for our friends when they succeed, sometimes you just can’t help feeling a twinge of competitive envy when your career isn’t quite going to plan.
Jealousy can rear its ugly head when you get passed over for a promotion, or the company newbie seems to be moving up the ranks faster than you. Job envy is very real, but it also prevents you from moving forward with your own career.
Here’s how to stop being jealous and use other people’s success to motivate yourself instead.
1. Remind yourself that no job is ever as amazing as it appears
You’ll never know exactly how much blood, sweat and tears it took the person to get where they are because most people tend to broadcast only the good parts of their lives. People post gorgeous photos of themselves on holiday, but not when they’re working overtime or getting up at 5am for a two-hour commute, right? When you find yourself thinking that other people have it easier than you, remember that you’re not seeing the whole picture.
2. Be grateful
The minute you start comparing yourself to other people and feeling bad, try thinking of all the things you’ve done that you’re proud of. Focus on how far you’ve come and all the things you’ve achieved in your life. For all you know, someone else could be wishing they were in your shoes right now.
3. Get inspired
Has your friend just been offered an amazing new job? Or maybe she’s making megabucks after scoring that blogging deal? Rather than letting out your inner competitor, turn their success into your motivation by dissecting the steps they took to get there and asking them for tips. Have they taken on more projects, gone to more networking events or have some specific skills that you don’t? Figure out what you can do to improve and get going!
4. Congratulate them
As difficult as this may feel at the time, we promise this will help you get over your envy much quicker. Whether you think the person deserved their success or not, being outwardly bitter can get you into hot water. If you don’t think you can manage a sincere smile in person, post a nice message on their Facebook wall or send them a text. Karma is real, girls!