Why Phubbing Could Be Ruining Your Relationship

Have you ever been having dinner with your boyfriend and whipped out your mobile phone?

Perhaps you read your emails, or replied to a couple of texts. You may have scrolled through your Instagram feed or checked your Facebook notifications.

Was your other half angry with you? Well, we can see why. Because you’re PHUBBING him.

Yes, phubbing. It’s a term you’ve probably never heard of, but it could very well be causing strain in your relationship.

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Phubbing is a shorterned term for ‘phone snubbing’, the act of ignoring someone because you’re too busy concentrating on your phone.

And according to a new study, it could actually harm your romance.

Researchers at Texas’s Baylor University surveyed 308 adults to develop a ‘Partner Phubbing Scale’, which featured nine things that people noted about their partner’s smartphone use.

These included placing their phone face up on a table or checking it if a conversation came to a dead end.

A second survey revealed that 46.3% of 145 adults admitted that their significant other had ‘phubbed’ them.

While most agreed that it wasn’t a problem as long as the phubbing didn’t last for long, 36.6% said it ‘depressed’ them.

And even more worryingly, 22.6% said it led to ‘conflict and dissatisfaction’ with their boyfriend or girlfriend.

Lead researcher Dr. James A Roberts says: ‘These lower levels or relationship satisfaction, in turn, led to lower levels of life satisfaction and, ultimately, higher levels of depression.

‘When you think about the results, they are astounding.

‘Something as common as cellphone use can undermine the bedrock of our happiness – our relationships with our romantic partners.’

Maybe keep your phone in your handbag next time?