The beginning of a relationship can be a total whirlwind, and it’s easy to get swept up in the passion and excitement of it all.
But there’s a few telltale signs – which can show up subtly pretty early on – to watch out for.
1. He wants to know where you are at ALL times
And if you don’t answer his texts in a suitable amount of time (according to him), your phone will soon start ringing.
There’s a huge difference between being caring and being controlling.
2. He might comment on what you’re wearing, and not in a good way
Comments like this might touch on how ‘short’ your skirt is, how ‘tight’ your dress is or how ‘sexy’ you look (and not in a fun, flirty or complimentary way).
If he’s knocking your confidence or putting doubt in your mind about your own appearance, he’s not the guy for you.
3. He gets funny about your girls’ night out
A positive relationship should give you both the space to enjoy some time with friends.
If you hear push-back like ‘who are you dressing up for if I’m not there?’, you might want to question why he’s saying such things.
4. He’ll want to check your phone
Trust issues aren’t cool. And they’re his issues, not yours.
5. He makes digs about your past
If he’s stalking through your Facebook photos and getting angry with you for past relationships and old pictures from that Ibiza holiday, it’s just not going to end well.
You’re both living in the present, and you shouldn’t be made to feel guilty or anxious for the things that happened before you even knew each other.
6. He might throw some backhanded compliments your way
‘I love it when you wear heels, they make your legs look amazing’, whilst you’re standing next to him in your Converse.
Compliments should make you feel great about yourself, not have you second guessing every little decision you make.
7. Nothing is ever their fault
Even if you’re the one that’s hurt or upset by something they’ve done, if you (even calmly) try and talk to them about it, they’ll always find a way to flip it back and somehow make it your fault.
8. You might feel like you’re on a rollercoaster
When it’s good, it’s really good. But when it’s bad, the relationship can be pretty draining.
Someone shouldn’t have that much of a sway over your happiness.
9. You struggle to keep up with his mood
One minute, you feel like the most important thing in his life. And it’s bliss.
But the smallest little thing can suddenly change everything.