We all have those friends on social media who love to brag about their supposedly perfect relationship. The huge bunch or flowers captioned “boy did good”, the Facebook check-in at the fancy spa hotel titled “weekend with my bae”, or, the worst, a full-on status declaring how awful their life would be without their other half #blessed. Don’t mind us while we grab the sick bucket…
However, according to a recent study – as well as being annoying – these gushing over-sharers are actually really insecure.
While we’re all aware that social media is not an accurate reflection of people’s real lives, this research proves that the smug couples you regularly see on social media aren’t necessarily as happy and in love as they appear.
Research conducted by the Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin looked at the thinking behind what they call “relationship visibility” (i.e. how much you share about your relationship publically), and they found that people who feel anxious about their relationship will feel the need to constantly remind people they’re in one.
The abstract of the study read: “Anxious individuals reported high desired visibility… On a daily basis, when people felt more insecure about their partner’s feelings, they tended to make their relationships visible. These studies highlight the role of relationships in how people portray themselves to others.”
So next time you’re scrolling through Facebook and get a pang of jealously at seeing a loved up couple, remember the pair in question might not be as perfect as you think.