There are a few people in every office that are just too damn happy. We’re proponents of positivity, especially when times are dark, but there’s something quite sinister about someone who never seems to have a bad day. Maybe because we don’t trust people that don’t share the same burdens of feeling pissed off 80% of the working day?
We feel slightly guilty about it, though. You know when you meet someone who is perfectly lovely, kind, considerate and there’s just something about them you don’t trust? There’s got to be a logical reason beyond you just being a terrible person!
Thankfully there is! A new study confirms that when confronted with cheerful people, we’re more likely to try and take advantage of them. It sounds cruel but that’s just our programming.
A study from the easy to remember journal, Organisational Behaviour and Human Decision Processes, conducted six experiments that pitted people against perpetually cheery people.
This isn’t going to help your faith in humanity but the study found, according to HelloGiggles, that “the real reason people respond so warily to unfiltered sunshine cheerfulness has nothing to do with being total killjoys”
The ‘Goody Two Shoes’ resentment really hold up. What’s actually going on is that we instinctually spot these people and perceive them as ignorant and stupid. Which makes it really easy to take advantage of these people.
It’s just not fair.
So where does the mistrust come from? Maybe we just don’t trust ourselves around these people.
Alternatively, cheerfulness is so often just a front to win favour. The tolerance for someone faking happiness all the time is pretty low. Mainly because we all wish we could feel what these people are pretending to feel.
However, it feels weird to direct these feelings of resentment toward people who are genuinely a delight.
We should just try harder to not take advantage of one another. With that said though, sometimes it’s okay to be grumpy.