4 failsafe ways to make friends at work

Being the newbie in the office can be a bit daunting when it seems like everyone on your close-knit team have been friends like forever. Whether you’re shy or just a little overwhelmed, we’ve got some tried and tested tips for bonding with your new colleagues.

Hopefully your new office BFFs will welcome you with open arms, but if they’re more on the reserved side, here are four ways to make friends at work.

1. Flatter them

Since everyone already knows each other, in this case it’s up to you to make the effort to get to know them. And there’s no quicker way to get someone to like you than to flatter their ego. We’re not saying you should be sucking up to them or be fake in any way, but take the time to notice things around you.

If you love that statement necklace your new desk neighbour is wearing, tell her. Ask colleagues questions about themselves and the job – how long they’ve been at the company, where the best coffee in the building is, how they spent their weekend. The more you show interest in them, the more they’ll start to show interest in you.

2. Be helpful and join in

This is a good one for making a good impression on the job as well as making friends. Offer to help out whenever an opportunity arises, especially when that involves some sort of team effort. Go on a tea run for the team or ask if you can help organise the Christmas party. Find out if there are any out of office activities your colleagues might participate in, like a reading group or women’s football team, and join in.

3. Take them out

Everyone loves free drinks, so invite your colleagues out to the pub and offer to buy the first round. As soon as you all relax a bit outside of the office, conversation will flow more freely and you’ll start to really get to know them.

4. Stay positive

The power of a smile is still underestimated, so flash those pearly whites even if you’re feeling a bit low. Steer clear of any toxic office gossip, especially while you’re new, and leave the venting of heavy personal problems at home until you learn who really has your back. The more positive your conversation, the more likely people are to think of you in a positive light.

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