The attitude towards Kim Kardashian's robbery has, once again, shed light on a very important issue...
You chose to wear a tight skirt that shows off your curves. You deserved a pinch on the bum from that guy on the tube. You invited it, you tease.
You had way too much to drink at that party last night. You were asking for it.
You shouldn’t wear your engagement ring out tonight. You’ll be advertising it, just asking for it to be stolen.
Are you angry yet? Well, you certainly should be.
There was, understandably, absolute outrage earlier this year when Brock Turner continuously used alcohol and party culture as an excuse for his actions. He never accepted that he’d actually committed a crime, and his own family were more concerned about him missing out on steak dinners than for the victim.
This is victim-blaming. And it needs to stop.
Over the past few days, I’ve been shocked and dismayed by the way that Kim Kardashian West’s ordeal has been talked about in some corners of the internet. Quite frankly, the attitude towards the whole thing, in some cases, stinks.
In case you’ve been living under a rock, you’ll already know that the TV star and social media mogul was robbed of millions of dollars worth of jewellery when armed, masked men broke into her hotel room in Paris.
Kim Kardashian might be one of the world’s most famous women. Much like the plot of her $125 million mobile game, she has erased herself from the Z-List and secured her spot at the top of every A-List bash there is going.
Everybody knows that Kim is a wealthy woman. Love her or hate her, she has built a very successful enterprise by allowing cameras to document her life, both on our television and our phone screens.
But. Kim Kardashian West is also a wife. A mother. And a woman.
In the early hours of Monday morning, as she slept in her bed, she was reportedly bound. Gagged. And threatened at gunpoint.
According to some reports, she even thought she was going to be ‘raped.’
At that very moment, all of the wealth and celebrity fell away, and she was a human being. Fearing for her life.
The two crimes are very different, but the notion that she ‘asked for it’, or that her attack was in any way a result of her own behaviour, is synonymous with the victim-blaming mentality that – quite rightly – had us all up in arms just a few months ago.
A person should not have to change behaviours through fear of what someone else might do to them.
If a crime is committed, it is the responsibility of the one committing it. And nothing else.
No matter who they are, the victim will carry the trauma of it around with them for the rest of their life.