What is love? (Baby, don’t hurt me). But seriously, when does a relationship step into ‘falling in love’ with one another? Throughout our young adult lives we’re constantly told that we don’t know what love actually is but does anyone?
Fair enough, your Nan and Grandad who have been together since the 1940s and had seven kids and are ready to die together, they’re probably in love. On the other hand, when you stuck Joey Bla-Bla’s name in your MSN Messenger tagline back in Year 8, that probably wasn’t love… even if you thought it was.
That said, you can’t really ever know if you’re in love, it’s just something you’ve got to feel. That doesn’t sound good to you?
Okay, if you’re a bionic person and need some objective methodology to test and potentially compromise your loving relationship, this study is for you. Two professors at the University of Virginia came up with two be-all and end-all questions that can determine whether you’re actually in love.
“How happy are you in your [relationship] relative to how happy you would be if you weren’t in the [relationship]?”
“How do you think your partner answered that question?”
According to the Mail Online, the study consulted over 4,000 couples and then asked them six years later into their relationships to compare results.
Unsuprisingly if you answered that you’d be as happy single as you are in your relationship you’ll be more likely to break-up. However, it’s better to be an independent person and not rely entirely on your relationship to provide happiness… just saying.
Interestingly, 59% of the test subjects couldn’t say confidently how their partner felt about their relationship. Further evidence that communication is the most important part of your relationship!
So let’s say both of these questions yielded less than encouraging results, how can you make your relationship last?
One of the professors behind this study said that we shouldn’t “bargain too hard” with our partners. Don’t try and make up for weak parts of your relationship by bolstering other parts, just communicate and work through issues together. Simple as that!